I failed to love unconditionally

Perhaps understanding love and knowing that when we feel anger, disappointment,  or resentment toward others, we do not have love within.  Love is unconditional, and selfless and acceptance.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7New International Version (NIV)

I read this biblical description of love hundreds of time and tried to understand how a person can love this way. I had no problem with patience, kindness, and envy. I was not proud and boastful and I did not dishonor others and not considered a self-seeking person. Yet I was easily angered, kept records of wrongs. Sometimes I delighted in evil and ignored the truth***. I always trusted the Word of God, always hoped for the best and thought I was able to persevere. 

So I failed to love unconditionally and knew I had to change. I became a person who can now love everybody unconditionally, after some serious changes with my attitude, my past, and soul-searching.  Firstly, I had to forgive all the people who wronged me, and there were many. it was not easy, in fact, it was extremely difficult but with perseverance, I found the key to loving unconditionally. 

Anger, and keeping  a record of wrongs  were my weakest links, coupled with perseverance.  Although I never really understood what ***“Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth” means, until I prayed, and searched for the meaning and to find out if I was held captive to this aggravating sin.  Actually, it’s terrible to say “I have taken delight in evil” I do not believe we would actually do so.  To take delight in evil is actually a hurtful and horrible thing to do, and so I realized, that pride, envy, judgemental, and believing people deserve to suffer, is delighting in evil. I changed and am so thankful that I can honestly rejoice in the truth.

Evil is something that is a cause or source of suffering, injury, or destruction: the social evils of poverty and injustice. How can we delight in suffering?

Overcoming my weakness, helped me to find inner peace, I became more alert, aware and present. Not only is the past a distant story, that I seem to be forgetting, the future is no longer important, simply because I have found, that the present, is the most peaceful, beautiful place to be. Of course, this does not mean that I do not have to face situations, and sometimes unwelcome challenges, but by being present, whatever happens is so much easier to deal with.

From the web -  http://www.liveinthemoment.org/what-is-the-meaning-of-love/

Love is complete acceptance: When we allow someone to be exactly as they are, without any belief that they aren’t good enough, without any belief that they would be “better” if they were different, this is love.

Love is completely unconditional: Love has no conditions. When we truly love someone, we can’t stop loving them, regardless of what they do or say. If our love is dependent upon the other person acting and speaking how we want, then this love is completely conditional. We often confuse this to be love, but this is just positive thoughts about someone. This is just loving what a person says or does, not loving them. Positive thoughts or the thought “I love you” isn’t necessary to love. Sometimes it even gets in the way.

Love is selfless: True love doesn’t want anything in return, because there is nothing it needs. We just love for the sake of love. When we love someone, we don’t look for them to fill our needs, love us back, and all those types of things. If that is what we are looking for, then we are just using the other person. What is the meaning of love? Love is completely selfless.